Todays outfit is a yellow leopard print dress, first let me tell you a story…
Out of the blue my eldest child Kiara (aka Kiki) told me she’d like to give her hair to charity. I hardly took any notice believing it to be a throw away statement typical of a 10 year old. Kiki has always disliked wearing her hair in a pony tail claiming she looks like a boy so I was understandably skeptical when she brought it up again the following day.
Clearly we needed to clarify how this was going to work. I explained that it’d take 2-3 years for her hair to grow back if she didn’t like it & reminded her of the outbursts against wearing her hair tied up for P.E.
Nope she was adamant.
Therefore I set her the task of researching how to go about donating hair & what the requirements were, effectively giving her an out to change her mind. However she didn’t change her mind in fact she was straight back to me in a heartbeat with all the answers. Hmmm she is serious, I thought.
Here’s the thing, I want my children to care enough about the community & the planet so they’re naturally proactive & not merely paying lip service. I’d like them to become adults with empathy who see the entire picture & not just what’s effecting them directly. Little things such as recycling or noticing litter & picking it up are part of the every day for them. Equally they’re made fully aware of how tough life is for many children & what can be done to help. So why am I hesitating on this? Isn’t is exactly the type of thing I’d advocate?
My concern was Kiki’s reaction to having very short hair, coupled with being the only girl in her entire year at school sporting a cropped cut – surely that isn’t the reason? Perhaps I’m over thinking it? Questions questions running through my mind.
As a hairdresser I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve cheerfully said to women “It’s only hair, it grows back”. I regularly cut my own hair quite short purely for a change of look, what is the big deal?
Then it hit me – I didn’t want her to feel disappointment. In that moment I decided this kind of thinking is irrational & does the child no good at all so I shook it off.
Ok Kiki let’s do this!
First she thoroughly washed & dried her hair as explained on the Little Princess Trust website. Next, I set up my camera to film the haircut for her to watch later. Then we began.
You can check out the short movie we made on YouTube. Apologies for the amateurish edit, this is something I desperately need to work on so I can get some make up tutorials in the can for you. Time is always against me right now with the loft conversion going on & school holidays too! sigh
Here’s where it gets truly shocking…
From the moment Kiki stood up & ran her fingers through her newly cropped hair she’s been different. It’s a week tomorrow & I’m still seeing it. What am I talking about exactly you may ask?
Well to put it simply it’s her attitude.
She’s been helpful around the house, thoughtful to her siblings & what’s even more outrageous, she actually does what I ask of her without arguing or MOANING!!!
I KNOW! Who knew this would be the result? Not me that’s for bloody sure.
This week my child taught me how to parent a little better than I was doing the week before. It has given me pause for thought yet on reflection it is rather obvious. When you do something selfless & kind you end up feeling really rather good about yourself. Bonus? – MUCH.
Let’s hope it lasts or she’s off to help out at a food bank….wink
Now for a flippy little dress of Spring yellow leopard print
This Billie & Blossom dress I found on a Dorothy Perkins sale rail a couple of years ago for the princely sum of £22. Simply pairing it with black accents elevates it to CHIC therefore once again it’s my Chanel Mini to the rescue. I’m going for slight lift with a wedge heel & thrown a basic black cardi over my shoulders in case the sun disappears behind a cloud.
The Chanel bag & Lanvin shoes are somewhat more expensive than the dress, although I do enjoy a great deal more wear from them throughout the entire year. For some of these other outfits wearing the bag see this & this post & for the shoes see here & here. If you’re looking to invest in a Vintage Chanel bag have a look at my shop page, where I’ve scoured the internet so you don’t have to.